Occasionally there comes a moment in life when you realize that so called 'friend' of yours really isn't so great. It seems he or she lives to tear you down, or make life difficult. And in that moment, you decide it's time to end the toxic friendship, once and for all.
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Because, as with any relationship, a healthy friendship should only add to your life in positive ways. Of course there will be rough patches, where you decide to hate each other for a second before making up over mixed drinks at your favorite bar. But if such feuds go on for too long, or become too frequent, it should really cause you to stop and think.
So how do you know if your friend is truly toxic, and not just kind of annoying? According to Nicole Martinez, Psy.D., LCPC, toxic people are often competitive, negative, and may resist and even sabotage your growth and change. 'These people may have a number of motives. Some of them think that you will no longer want them in your life if you are to grow and get healthier as a person,' Martinez says to Bustle over email. In short, they are selfish, mean, and don't have your best interests at heart.
I get that moving on is way easier said than done. After all, this is your friend we're talking about. You guys probably lived together, or grew up together, and you definitely shared some milestones together. So how on earth are you supposed to cut them off, and never talk again? Well, it is definitely difficult, but it is possible. Here are some things to keep in mind when letting go of a toxic friend.
1. Realize It's OK To Go Your Separate Ways
When it comes to friends, it's perfectly normal to feel like the relationship will and should go on forever. But just like you can move on from a partner, you can also move on from a friend. As Louise Jensen said on MindBodyGreen.com, 'The friendship may have come to its natural end and that's OK. If you're going to grow, you're going to lose people along the way.'
2. Focus On Your Healthy Relationships
When deciding to end a toxic friendship, do your best to focus on the other people in your life. As Martinez says, 'It is often helpful to focus on the healthy relationship we want to have, and ones that help us grow as a person.' Such people are worth hanging on to, so go spend your time with them.
3. Don't Stew In Your Bitterness
It can be tough to come to terms with a bad friend. After all, this person was supposed to be there for you, and they failed. It can stir up some pretty heavy bitterness, but it's necessary to let this feeling go. As Jensen said, '.. holding onto bitterness is damaging. Forgive her for not being the friend you want, free yourself of any guilt, and move on.'
4. Don't Wait For An Apology
If a friend was treating you bad enough to dump them from your life, then don't wait around for them to miraculously apologize. According to Martinez, don't hope for an admission that the other person was wrong, or treated you bad. 'That would be magnificent, almost ideal, but when that apology and insight never comes, [you'll] end up feeling more hurt than ever,' she says. So move on, and try to let it go.
5. Gather The Help Of Other Friends
Don't try to go through this 'break up' alone. Reach out to family or friends — anyone who can help remind you why you're ending the friendship. Lifestyle guru Kris Carr was talking about toxic partners when she wrote on her blog KrisCarr.com, but her advice applies here, too. 'Seek guidance from a coach, therapist or a really grounded friend — the kind that loves you unconditionally and isn't afraid to (metaphorically) slap you back to reality,' Carr said. Sound advice indeed.
6. Let Yourself Move On
Just like you shouldn't go back to a bad SO time and time again, don't torture yourself by doing this with friends, either. Simply end contact, and give yourself a chance to move on. As Martinez says, '.. the best thing we can do for ourselves is to move on and genuinely know in our hearts that we deserve better. While this is more easily said than done, it is essential for healing to begin.'
7. Allow Yourself To Be Sad
It's totally fine to feel sad about leaving a friendship. Feel those emotions, and take time to reflect on what you learned from the time you spent with him or her. Realizing what made you feel so bad will help you not put up with such toxicity in the future.
8. Have Less And Less Contact
Sometimes the easiest, and least dramatic, way to end a friendship is to slowly lessen your contact. As friendship expert Cherie Burbach said on Friendship.About.com, 'If you see your friend occasionally, you can always avoid contact as much as possible, with just a response here and there if they contact you. You can continue saying you're busy until they take the hint and leave.'
9. Keep Your Last Convo Brief
For a more definitive end, you could also sit your friend down and address them head on. As Martinez says, '.. keep things as brief and clean as possible. You do not owe them some long and drawn out explanation. Simply let them know they will not be in your life and why. Do not argue, do not engage, state your point and move forward. '
10. Consider Writing Them A Letter
If the previous tip sounds scary, then consider putting your thoughts down in letter form. Sometimes jotting down your feelings is the best route, as it gives you time to think, according to Martinez. It also gives you a chance to edit out some of the well, meaner, things you might feel inclined to say. Those things are best left out.
11. Reflect On What You Learned
Again, reflection is going to be a super important part of this process. As Burbach said, 'Every friendship, even the negative ones, should teach us something that helps us be better people going forward.' Keep in mind what you don't like, so that it doesn't happen again.
And remember, it is OK to end the friendship. It may be difficult, but you'll feel so much better in the end.
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African-American superstitions originate from a mixture of ancient African religion, Native American traditions, and European folklore.
Growing up do you remember hearing that an itchy palm means you are going to receive money soon? Or stepping on a crack can break your mother's back? Or dreaming of fish means someone you know is pregnant?
In our technologically savvy times some of these are regarded as foolish wives tales, but superstition was part of a legitimate belief system during slavery. There are many recorded instances of slave masters who stated they saw Black magical conjurers that healed the sick, performed spells and curses, and taught others these superstitions.
Although many typically won't admit they are superstitious, there are many superstitions black people believe in because of how deeply ingrained they are in Black culture.
I have compiled a list of 20 superstitions that many black people pass on generation upon generation.
1. Step on a crack, break your mother's back.
I remember learning this rhyme as a child, and always thought of it as an innocent childish game, but feared the repercussions of stepping on that infamous crack in the pavement. I recently learned that the original rhyme was far from innocent: 'Step on a crack and your mother will turn black.' It is believed to come from the late 19th century racism. Who would have known?!
2. If your ear is ringing someone is talking about you.
I know many people who believe this one. This superstition creates paranoia in many because nobody wants to find out someone is talking about them behind their back.
3. Don't cut a baby's hair before his/her first birthday.
If you do so they will have 'bad' hair or bad luck. This wives tale may hold valid reasoning. African American hair naturally changes consistency and texture many times throughout their lifetimes, and methods of hair cuts can affect the look or texture. This old wives tale originates from the fear of coarse, 'harder to manage' hair many refer to as 'bad' hair, along with a recorded history of babies who have gotten sick because they did not have hair to help in keeping them warm. I'd probably research more before I tried it on my child.
4.Sunshine,Raining, and Thunder at the same time: The devil is beating his wife.
This is called a Sunshower when the sun is shining and it is raining and/or thunder and lightning at the same time. Sun showers are very rare occurrences. Does that mean that the devil keeps his wife happy typically?
5. If you keep making funny faces, one day it will get stuck that way.
As a child I always believed this one. I remember seeing a man with very big eyes, and believed that the condition was self-inflicted. It is a humorous superstition, although we all know that your face will not really get stuck.
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6. If your palm is itching that means that you are coming into some money.
An itching in the right palm means coming gain; in the left, coming loss.
Whenever my mom's right palm would itch, we would go buy lottery tickets. We have yet to win, but the itchy palm superstition is one of my favorites to this day.
7. Don't talk on the phone or turn on the TV while it is thundering and lightning.
Apparently you can get struck by lightning. I always thought of this as a superstition, but recently found out that this one was true. If you are using a landline telephone, you can be shocked by a lightning bolt. There have been lightening related deaths, due the lightning hitting a home and the current passing through wires. Preventative measures have been implemented into most home appliances, but the risk still exists.
8. Don't put your purse on the floor or you'll stay broke.
I think this superstition is used to teach people accountability. A magic curse may not be the reason you're broke if you put your purse on the floor, but it might be the issue if you're not paying attention to your purse and the valuables inside of it. Although I don't believe this superstition, I avoid removing a woman's purse off of the floor at all costs. It would be disrespectful on one hand, and wouldn't want to be blamed for 'cursing' someone to be broke.
9. Don't go to the zoo when you are pregnant.
Your baby will come out looking like an animal, particularly a monkey.
This superstition sounds like it was also created from racist notions. I was unable to find the origin of this superstition, while there has yet to be a baby who has transformed into an animal. I am sure this superstition keeps pregnant women away from the zoo.
10. Fish dreams means that someone is having a baby.
A friend from college once received a call from her grandmother, asking her if she was pregnant. Her grandmother had a dream of fish. Believe it or not, my friend was pregnant. Call it mothers intuition, or mysticism, it is a very interesting superstition.
11. Animals know when you are pregnant.
This superstition is somewhat true. Some scientists believe that a dog's keen sense of smell allows it to notice a hormonal difference in a woman when she's pregnant. This phenomena is not completely explainable, but does happen.
12. If you break a mirror, you will have 7 years of bad luck.
Luck is a funny thing. We avoid things that can create bad luck, and believe that we can use lucky items to change our bad luck to good luck. I've broken a few mirrors in my life, possibly the reason I have yet to win the lottery.
13. It's bad luck to cross a black cat's path.
This is a timeless myth that originates from multiple cultures. Black cats seem to be mystical, sneaky, and even evil. It is always creepy to cross paths with a black cat at night when you are walking alone. It kind of makes you wonder what might happen next.
14. Never buy your boyfriend or husband shoes as a gift. Because he'll walk out your life with them.
I know many women who believe this superstition. I never heard of anyone who this has happened to, but I can imagine there are people who can lay claim to this.
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15. You will catch a death of cold by walking around with wet hair.
This one is true. Your head releases most of the heat in your body. If your hair is wet and you are in cold temperatures, you are putting your body at risk of getting a cold.
16. Girls are carried high; boys are carried low.
This is a myth about predicting the gender of a baby during pregnancy. Doctors have proven that this superstition is not true. In fact the way the baby is carried depends on muscle tone or the way the baby has positioned itself in the uterus. It is fun to speculate or guess the gender, but this one isn't scientifically true.
17. If you allow children to sweep the floor, they will sweep up unwanted guests.
I have heard this one before and believe there is some truth to it. Children typically take a long time to do mundane tasks like cleaning, so I can imagine that any guests who arrive during your cleaning process are 'unwanted.'
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18. When you cross the railroad tracks you touch a screw for safe crossings.
I never listened to this superstition as a child. I always thought it was better luck to get across the tracks as fast as you could.
19. Never put your hat on a bed, or you will have bad luck (or worse die).
I have been guilty numerous times of putting a hat on a bed, and never thought twice about it until I saw a superstitious friends' reaction. The worst consequence I can remember was when someone laid down on my hat. Poor hat.
20. Splitting the Pole Gives you bad luck.
If you are walking with someone, never let a pole, sign, or scaffold, break the plane between the both of you. After a bad experience, I always take heed to this superstition. One day during the winter I was walking down the street with a group of friends towards a pole. My friends warned me not to split the pole, and said I should walk on the same side of the pole they were walking on. I ignored them, and after a few steps, slipped and fell on black ice. From now on, I don't split poles at all, or I say 'bread and butter' to protect myself from the ensuing bad luck.
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